How to Ask for Her Phone Number - Attire Club by Fraquoh and Franchomme

It’s possible that for a shorter or longer time now, you’ve been having a tough time asking other ladies for their numbers for fear of getting disappointed. Perhaps you’ve tried getting a lady’s number before, but it ended in premium tears as you got turned down and embarrassed in the process. Or maybe your case is different as you are a novice in the game who’s interested in building a rapport with different kinds of ladies but don’t have the nerve to go about it.

Whatever might be the case, congratulations in advance! You’ve stumbled upon the right article that intends to help you get over your problem.

For a start, let’s get this into your mind; asking a lady for her number is not as difficult as it seems – it’s daunting though, you only need the right approach. Now, let’s consider some of the best, tested and trusted methods to get the number you so desire.

It’s about being sensitive

Generally, every lady goes around with the notion that she isn’t cheap and deserves some degree of respect, especially from the male folk. This is why it takes time to get their consent when you are interested in dating those who are not attracted to you. If they want to be polite, they’d ask for some time to think about it; if not, they can hand you an outright red card.

So, bumping into her and asking for her phone number without any initial getting-to-knowing-each-other might send a wrong signal. In short, it looks creepy. Imagine walking up to a girl and asking her, “Hey, may I have your digit?” Mehn! That’s so wrong. It shows you are part of the gross majority of guys who go about their patriarchal orientation with no regard for the female folk. You’d be in serious trouble if you are asking the feminist inclined type.

You don’t just go about asking for numbers indiscreetly or indiscriminately; you’d continue to hit the mud if you keep doing this. Typically, there’s a blueprint that works. First, you want to meet her, get a conversation started, get her to vibe with you, and then, once you notice she’s into you, you can make a move to take her number.

Throw her off her feet first

Getting her number is beyond pushing for mere digits. It’s about making a connection. You will always get a No! From every lady unless you learn to get them to see something valuable in you. No lady wants to waste her precious time fraternizing with someone she perceives has nothing to offer. So, getting her number is a package that comes with building your self-confidence, communication skills, altruistic outlook, composure, self-respect, and all.

Ladies find charming guys irresistible. For you to capture their attention, you must be good at keeping a thrilling conversation. Once she gets attracted to you, you are one step closer to getting her number. She may get engrossed with the conversation that she won’t recall you asking for her number; just hand her your phone and see her punch the digit herself. This trick is tested and trusted. It’s one of the magic to getting every lady’s phone number.

Excuses can do the trick too

This works if you have a genuine excuse, or you could come up with a convincing one if you don’t have any. However, there must be an encounter, as in, you guys must have had an interface which could be a deliberate conversation or a happenstance. Take, for instance, you meet this gorgeous lady at the supermarket, and you approached her for help concerning some lady care stuff you’re picking up for your sister or mum. She, being the friendly type, gives you some advice on what to get and whatnot. If she responds positively, it might be a window of opportunity to get one new number. At the end of the whole thing, you just might say, “I appreciate your kind gestures, but I’m kinda running late; if you don’t mind, I’d like to have your phone number. Cos’ I’ll like to get in touch again to thank you for your help properly.” She may oblige if she feels your intention is good. Then, expect to hear something like, “Oh! No, not at all. My phone number is ….”

A ‘no’ is inevitable at times

All ladies are not the same. This is why when you push to get their numbers, the responses you get might vary. While some would hand it out immediately, some would give you an outright No! Some others want to say ‘Yes’ but feel they’d appear cheap.

Now, note this, if a lady says ‘No’, this doesn’t mean she won’t say ‘Yes’ later on. For this set of ladies, you only have to keep your charm on. She wants to be convinced you want to have something profound to do with her and not passing her as a fling or something worse. And if you meet a lady for the first time, got her into a conversation where both of you seemed to click, but after asking for her number, she turns you down. It’s not a big deal! There are other ladies you’ll meet on your itinerary; this one only turned out to be a bad egg. Remember, if you’re in a rush of talking to women, there are multiple phone chatlines on the internet that you can use to talk, so don’t aggravate that person you have hopes to get to know better.

Ask only when you are sure

Don’t be tempted to ask for her number unless you get the feeling that the time right is to do so. For instance, if she’s someone close by, for instance, a new colleague at work, give it time. Don’t be in a hurry to get her number. When the time is right, use your discretion.

By the time you’d be asking for her number, you must have the right answer for whatever question she’d throw at you. An example is if after you ask for her number, she asks, “what for?” your response should not sound stereotypical. Saying something like “To call you of course” sounds a bit off. Instead, say something creative like, “I’d like to always keep our chat active”.

Don’t ask at all

This sounds odd, right? Would you be surprised to know that this works too? It’s a subtle strategy you can use to get her number. However, this would only work if she’s the one approaching you for whatsoever reason and not the other way. A good lady should ask for your number after you help her out. For instance, if her car gets faulty on the way and you save the day by giving her a ride. God help you; she’s running late for an appointment; she’ll be in your debt.

This rarely happens, but when circumstances like this happen, never ask for her number. You don’t want her to see you as an opportunist or someone who’s trying to take advantage of her vulnerability. You have to be sensitive about this. If she takes your number, fine and good, and if she doesn’t, you don’t have to press for it.

Wrap Up

Get rid of your fears; you’ve been shown that asking for her number isn’t as difficult as you think it is. Even if she’s saying she has a boyfriend and all, it might only be an excuse to put you away. So, don’t slack! You only have to do some things right.

Fraquoh and Franchomme